Using people

There are many ways whereby people use other people, and thus degrade humans of their God-given dignity.

Some of the most common and well publicized and researched about are using other human in the form slavery, a more modern version of this is for example underpaid subordinates, slacking work colleagues, etc. Another one is in the form of sex, for examples prostitutions, pornography, paedophilia, even sexual acts outside marriage sometimes even within marriage itself.

But one type of 'using people' which is more subtle and seems harmless, but actually just as bad is, using others to fulfil one's own emotional or mental needs.

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I am a wise and mature girl who has gone through so much, whose dad a counsellor, and most importantly who has been learning God's wisdom. I can easily see through people who are supposedly 'nice', 'kind' or even 'Godly' people, but actually are in fact using me for their own emotional, psychological, or worse, to boost up their own ego. Sometimes I just bear with it and let it be, because I understand that people are just humans, and we sometimes do this subconsciously. We all are guilty of this. I know I was, and probably once in a while...

But when some people are being very persistent, this is the only thing that will come out of it: I will lose my respect for the person since from the actions seems like he or she totally do not respect my dignity and have no real respect for me. I will become distrustful of that person, and I will think, 'This person really needs to redefine his or her way of looking at themselves first, and also at others.'

And I would naturally think that, 'This person has some serious issues'.


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I will pray for anybody whom I think is in that situation, but I refuse to let myself to be used that way. Even God respects each human's dignity and freedom of the will. So, who are you to try and rob them away from me?

P/S: Please do not confuse love for others, with self love.